Love Your Spouse

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Marriage Tips for Moms (and a few stories, too)

Our marriage is pretty easy these days, but it wasn’t always that way. Both of us are pretty hard workers, and commitment and loyalty has never been a problem. We both take our marriage very seriously and are willing to do the work, which is half the battle. These marriage tips for moms might be helpful if you’re also married to someone who is ALL IN, yet frustratingly different than you. Ever feel like you’re married to someone you’ll never really understand?

Hubs and I have basically nothing in common, except an interest in politics and a shared set of values about family, honor and commitment. Music? Nope, we hate each other’s music. Ways to relax? He wants to lie on a beach, and I’d rather explore a new city. I love people and give them the benefit of the doubt, and he keeps a VERY small, tight circle. He loves exercise and I love the couch. I sing silly songs and do stupid dances, and he is the most serious individual you’ll ever meet unless he’s playing with the kids and no one else is watching.

There’s more! He’s a perfectionist who likes for everyone and everything to be JUST RIGHT, and I’m more interested in getting things done, even if it means I mess up a few (lots of) things. Left unchecked, he would be a complete workaholic, but I’ve pushed back on that enough over the years that he has learned some work-life balance. When we’re upset at each other, I can be incredibly persuasive, but it borders on accidentally manipulative sometimes, which is not a cute look. He tends to shut down, which makes me feel iced out and unloved. These are patterns that we’re still working hard to break, even after 10 years of marriage.

The deal is that we keep trying. We never give up on each other. And that’s why I wrote these blog posts – for all those mamas who are still trying. Only you can know if a marriage is worth fighting for, but if you believe it’s worth it, keep reading the blog posts below.

Addressing Unmet Expectations in a Relationship

Oct 8, 2020 | Love Your Spouse

Even healthy marriages suffer from internal grumbling and complaining by both spouses. Addressing unmet expectations in the relationship can be tricky, but if you learn to do it well, you'll end up with a more vibrant and growing relationship rather than a struggling one. Here...